I am a bookworm. There isn’t anything I have ever done that I didn’t buy a book for. When I got a dog, I bought dog books. When I planted a garden I bought gardening books. When I discovered I was going to have a baby I read books on pregnancy and child-rearing. I have even read books on successful co-parenting. When I became a Christian I read even more. I am reading the Bible, and reading books written by popular pastors.
I am a Christian. Since being baptized in 2006 I check with God before making every major and most minor decisions. If I am not sure what His will is in an area of my life, I wait and pray some more. If I disagree with what is His will for me, I pray that I can accept it and surrender with a joyful heart. I desire to bring glory to God and seek His kingdom.
I am a single mother, and now that I have had time to heal from my previous relationship I feel ready to start dating. Before I did anything I prayed to know God’s will for me in this area. Then I turned to scripture to see what it says regarding Christian dating, the behavior of an unmarried woman seeking marriage, and the type of man I should be looking for.
As a Christian woman I am not to engage in intimate physical contact with any man who is not my husband, nor should I encourage nor tempt a man in such behavior. We are both Christians and our bodies are temples, dwelling places for the Holy Spirit. It would be wrong for me to sin, or to lead him to sin.
Romans 12:1-2 NIV
Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-6 NIV
It is God’s will that you should be sanctified that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you.
1 Peter 2:11-12 NIV
Dear friends, I urge you, as aliens and strangers in the world, to abstain from sinful desires, which war against your soul. Live such good lives among the pagans that, although they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us.
I should be looking for a Christian man. The Bible states that the husband is the authority in the marriage, and the spiritual leader of the family. I should be looking for a man that is obedient to Christ. Only with a Christian man can I model for my child a Christ-centered marriage.
2 Corinthians 6:14-18 NIV
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.”
Ephesians 5:24-26 NIV
Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word
What about dating? How am I supposed to date? What does the Bible say about that? Is coffee too intimate..too compromising? How long are we to date before marriage? Is dating even scriptural?
It would seem there is more reading and praying to be done.
To be continued…